Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do to support your child who has gifts or talents. Here’s what the students themselves have told us.
There are the top ten things gifted students want from their parents(s)/ guardian(s):
- Be supportive and encouraging; be there for us; be on our side.
- Don’t expect too much of us; don’t expect perfection.
- Don’t pressure us, be too demanding, or push too hard.
- Help us with our schoolwork/homework
- Help us develop our talents.
- Be understanding.
- Don’t expect straight A’s.
- Allow us some independence; give us space; trust us, because chances are we know what we’re doing.
- Talk to us; listen to us.
- Let us try alternative education/ special programs.
Advocacy
Here’s what effective advocacy for your child could look like
- Know the facts; be informed – if you’re not sure, ask questions to learn what you need to know.
- Educate yourself on educational terminology, especially the vocabulary related to gifted education.
- Become familiar with the state guidelines and national guidelines to deepen your own knowledge base about giftedness.
- Be willing to give your child’s school or classroom your time and talents – not just your critiques and suggestions
- If you wish to talk with your child’s teacher, make and an appointment and tell the teacher in advance what you wish to discuss, being specific as possible. Remember, in the hallway right after school is never the best time or place for a serious conversation. Help ensure that your advocacy will make the most difference be allowing the teachers to give his/her full attention.
- Network with other interested parent(s)/ guardian(s), teachers and community members to discover what has worked for them, what has not worked, and who in the community has been most helpful.
- Be willing to listen to other perspectives.
- Bring in your sense of humor – everyone, including your child, will appreciate it.
- Be respectful of the professionals who are doing their best to educate every child, just as you are doing your best as a parent.
- Avoid becoming a hovering or “helicopter” parent – even gifted children need to develop their own sense of independence and the ability to speak for themselves in a tactful manner.
- Focus on your main issue and be willing to collaborate and compromise in order to move the conversation and next steps forward.
- Focus on your student’s needs, not the gifted label. Teachers teach youngsters, and each student has a unique array of gifts and challenges.
- Be assertive, not adversarial – remember that you are modeling how to interact with the world for your child.
- Join gifted organizations, attend gifted education and subscribe to gifted education resources- all of these will help reassure and challenge you as well as move you in a constructive direction.
Supporting Your Gifted Child
There are many things that parent(s)/guardian(s)/guardians can do to encourage children with gifts and talents to grow more able, more curious, more compassionate and well-adjusted. You will see from these examples that these are things we want for all our children!
At Home
In School
Successful partnerships between home and school largely depend upon common knowledge, direct and honest communication, mutual respect, and shared responsibility.
For example:
- Develop rapport with your child’s teacher
- Share your child’s “at home” work and creativity with the teacher at appropriate times
- Ask your child’s teacher for suggestions to encourage and nurture a particular talent, interest, or ability
- Be a volunteer in your child’s classroom or school
- Keep written documentation of meetings with school staff so you can be more helpful if there is a question in the future
- Offer to assist school staff in designing a Differentiated Educational Plan (a
- document that identifies the student’s strengths and weaknesses, personal
- goals, indicators of academic growth, and avenues of parental support)
- Take time to thank your child’s teacher and other school staff